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Wives, Love Your Husbands!
by Kristenea M. LaVelle (Kristenea's bio)
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Ephesians 5:22,33
I wish to share some things with you that God has placed on my heart. Special things, that will enhance your life if you let them.
To begin, if you are married, you have entered into a most precious relationship: you have become one-flesh with another, your husband. I know you understand what that entails, but I would like to exhort you to a fuller understanding of how good it can become and how to bring about that abundance of life within your marriage.
This husband/ wife relationship is unique in every way, special and blessed by God. A union of two souls, joined under God. It is of utmost importance to preserve this union at all costs. Just like your relationship to God. We would never divorce God just because we are going through some tough times in life. On the contrary, that is when we need Him all the more. Think of your marriage this way too. During the hard times, you will need eachother all the more. You must learn to depend on and draw strength from each other, with God at the center. If you practice this, you will have a successful marriage blessed with the abundance of God.
Remember that becoming one-flesh is a daily process, just like being a Christian. Just as you grow and mature in Christ Jesus, you will grow and mature as a wife. As a Christian we must feed ourselves with the Word of God and water ourselves with worship. This ensures that growth will occur and we will draw ever closer to our Lord and Savior. In marriage it is the same. You must learn to feed yourself with service and water yourself with humility. This will ensure that you will grow as a person and as a wife. It begins with you. You, as the wife, can build up your house in Jesus, or tear it down piece by piece until there is nearly nothing left. It is a choice that is placed before you, and you must choose how you will respond.
It begins with service. Serve your husband as if he were the king himself. (because he is). There is no room for selfishness in a one-flesh relationship, but the service begins with you. Always prefer him above yourself and place his priorities as yours,(this is not an easy thing to do). But just like our Christian walk, we set aside our will and submit to the Father's way, we must do the same thing in our marriages. Set aside our will, our agenda, and submit to the husband. Once you do this, God will take care of the rest. By submitting, you come under the protection and covering of your husband, and God. It is a double blessing. (although at times, not easily done.) I say this from experience. I struggled with rebellion and control for many years in my marriage and it created many problems. Once I put submission into practice, things began to smooth out. God blessed our relationship through my submission. It begins there, and that is why it is a daily process. Now my marriage is so sweet…it has become an abundant treasure that I can partake of on a daily basis, and it just keeps getting better!
You already know that the Bible says you are a helpmate. You are there to help your husband with whatever he needs. This is where the service and submission comes in. Always look at your position as the helper…and you will avoid many pitfalls that plague many of today's marriages. Learn his favorites (and any extras) and then learn to anticipate his needs and wants. (this may take years of practice). Once this is done, you can surprise him with them and it will draw you closer. Exhort him, encourage him, and build him up as a man and as head of household. Treat him like a king and you will have a king: A man that is strong in the Lord and full of confidence and lovingkindness. This begins with you.
Communication is of utmost importance, and it is imperative that both parties agree to keep the lines of communication open. The marriage begins to break down when communication ceases to exist. You will notice that men and women communicate differently…that's OK, God wired us differently because we have different tasks that we were created to do. Men speak less words, but get the same idea across…women speak three times as many words, and add emotion for effect. Learning to communicate effectively will be one of the hardest obstacles you come across, yet it is so important. Eventually you will speak the same language, but you must first endeavor to learn the language of the other. This is a joint effort and is also a daily process. Accept this a fact and learn to correct for it. If you do, you will notice the fruit of your labor as God blesses you and your relationship.
Lastly, I want to encourage you to enjoy each other. Live life to the fullest and take pleasure in the little things. Look for opportunities to love, cherish, and serve each other…you will be blessed if you do.
Proverbs 31:10,31
"The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil." Proverbs 31:11
Copyright 2001, Kristenea M. LaVelle. All Rights Reserved. Used by permission.
| About Kristenea M. LaVelle: I am a wife of 10 years and a homeschooling mother of five dedicated to teaching and living the truth of Jesus Christ. David and I make our home in Spokane, Washington where we can serve our family and friends with the love of Christ. It was through His direction that I began writing and found myself on a fascinating new journey in life. Now my joy is made complete by writing for Him and about Him. E-mail Kristenea |
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